Saying how you are feeling is a lot harder than telling somebody what to do. But it’s a far more vulnerable and trustworthy place to begin. When you really listen to your friend, you’ll hear something far more rewarding than the empty echo of your own brilliance.
We know this is going to feel super-hard. It will get easier over time. If you take nothing else away, remember this: Almost never, ever, dole out advice at all.