In order to learn, you need help. America seems to have a “do-it-yourself, I-don’t-need-anyone” attitude, as if it’s somehow cooler, tougher, smarter or better to do things on your own.
But doing it all by yourself is not only unnecessary, it’s impossible. You can’t do it on your own. So how do you get the help you need?
Find someone you can confide in, someone you can talk to about whatever mountains you’re facing. This person could be a professional counselor, an uncle, a grandparent, a teacher, a school counselor or a coach. This is the lesson adapted from the text of SUCCESS for Teens: Real Teens Talk about Using the Slight Edge, the cornerstone material of SUCCESS for Teens, a personal-development curriculum by the SUCCESS Foundation.
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Find someone you can confide in, someone you can talk to about whatever mountains you’re facing.
When Giselle John found an adult to confide in, her life changed. She came to the U.S. from Trinidad and Tobago at 14 and had a rough time adjusting to high school. She got into a fight with another girl just two weeks after she started ninth grade and soon lost all interest in her education.
But when Giselle began the 10th grade, she met a teacher who would change her life, Ms. Stanford.
“I always noticed how the other kids related to her. She was friendly but stern. She took an interest in my life, and I felt special. I began to settle down and go to school more often. I wanted to get good grades and be on the honor roll. I wanted to be somebody in life—the lawyer I dreamt of being ever since I was younger. Eventually I was placed in more honors classes. I made new friends as I changed classes, and they were kids who were hard workers.”
Giselle ultimately graduated near the top of her high school class, which wouldn’t have been possible without Stanford’s help.
Use these three tips to learn something new:
- Study how it works and what to do.
- Learn by actually doing it.
- Find someone who has already mastered something you want to do. That person, a mentor, can teach you through his or her experience.
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To download the SUCCESS for Teens e-book, learn about the program, share your story about it or make a contribution, visit SUCCESSFoundation.org. Leaders, participants and donors can request a profile in SUCCESS by emailing info@SUCCESSFoundation.org.
This article originally appeared in the August 2017 issue of SUCCESS magazine.