How to Be Better at Asking Questions (and Why It Matters)

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Are you getting better, smarter, wiser, faster, and stronger in your life? If not, why not?

When we Ask, the answers cause us to strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.

Questioning helps us discover, and then transcend, our human limitations.

When you embrace the asking journey, it will give you an opportunity to review your life day by day to discover:

  1. What your expectations are for your life
  2. What your expectations are for others
  3. Your highest potential and service to humanity

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No matter who you are, what you do, or at what stage of life you are, recognizing the opportunity to ask will continually advance you to the next stepping-stone toward your dreams of a better life or better way of living. When we request, inquire of, and question one another and allow those answers to come, it brings us to a new understanding or gives us the feedback to improve a relationship, a project, or a life goal. Movement in a positive direction toward your dreams, your goals, and a better quality of life is just a question away.

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It’s important to prepare to be a good asker. Getting into the right mindset and understanding the power of the tools and how to navigate through the process are important to manifesting the answers that will continue to guide you along destiny’s path.

There are four elements to put into practice to help fortify your results:

  1. Belief: Believe and trust that the answer is there somewhere— waiting for you. Expect it!
  2. Action: Keep taking steps in the direction of your dreams even if you haven’t received all the answers. Your actions will continue to prompt more questions and open up your curiosity so that your requests and inquiries become bigger and more relevant.
  3. Visualization: Use the power of your imagination to create positive images and feelings around the answers you seek. Allow yourself to create mental pictures of having issues resolved, relationships healed, wishes completed, and dreams fulfilled.
  4. Prayer: Never forget the existence and wisdom of a higher power in your practice. The Creator of you, the Universe, and everything else is certainly your greatest and most benevolent ally when it comes to the fulfillment of your destiny!

Now take out your journal and let’s work through this exercise together. Write down the categories and answer the questions after:

Define your desires: What is it that you really want? Do want more cooperation? More understanding? More intimacy? More friendship? More riches? More adventure? More love?

Connect to your core beliefs: What is driving your current state? Do you think you’re not worthy? Do you think your happiness is your or someone else’s responsibility? Do you believe you deserve to have your greatest desires fulfilled?

Understanding someone else’s core beliefs: In any relationship, it’s important to know where someone else is coming from. How can you better understand the core beliefs of the people who matter to you? Asking is the best vehicle to use to get to new understandings with the people who are important to you in your personal or work life.

Honor your values: “What am I not willing to compromise— ever?” Define it so you can ask for understanding and honoring of your values when you’re in relationships and those values are challenged.

Heal misunderstandings: While it can seem like a powerful advantage to hold up your hurt or disappointment as a bargaining chip, it usually leads to deeper turmoil. Ask yourself:

“What does it cost me to hang on to hurt?”
“What would I gain by releasing it and starting with a clean slate?”
“What steps need to happen for me to release this?”

Discover the truth: Everyone experiences their world from their own particular state of consciousness. What we hold up as truth may be more the result of our own subjective set of conclusions based on our own experiences. This is where asking really pays dividends in relationships. Ask the other person what they think happened. What the experience or reality is to them.

Define the steps forward: “Where do I really want to go from here? What do I hope to get out of this experience? What do I see as the best resolution or conclusion? Where do I see myself a year from now? Five years from now?”

We recommend turning to your journal frequently to review your questions and answers. You’ll probably begin to see that you’re evolving as you go. That you’re overcoming some of the hurdles that used to hold you back. Make sure you keep a victory section to acknowledge and remind yourself that, step by step, you are moving into your dreams and toward your destiny!



Excerpted from Ask!: The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny by Mark Victor Hansen and Crystal Dwyer Hansen. Post Hill Press. Used with permission.  

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Mark Victor Hansen is best known as the co-author for the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series and brand, setting world records in book sales, with over 500 million books sold. Mark also worked his way into a worldwide spotlight as a sought-after keynote speaker, and entrepreneurial marketing maven, creating a stream of successful people who have created massive success for themselves through Mark’s unique teachings and wisdom. With his endearing charismatic style, Mark captures his audience’s attention as well as their hearts. Having spoken to over 6,000 audiences world-wide with his one-of-a-kind technique and masterful authority of his work, time and again he continues to receive high accolades from his audiences as one of the most dynamic and compelling speakers and leaders of our time. Mark and his beautiful wife, Crystal Dwyer Hansen, have co-written their newest book to be released in April 2020 called, ASK! The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny.

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Crystal Dwyer Hansen is an international speaker, researcher, corporate consultant, author and entrepreneur. Her expertise is in the field of human potential. Through her years spent as a transformational life coach, and wellness/nutrition expert, she has seen people experience profound and lasting transformation in relationships, career, health and wellness, by tapping into their own inner resources. Having personally guided people from seemingly impossible states of depression, anxiety and hopelessness to triumph, freedom and happiness, is what drives Crystal’s conviction that all people have unlimited potential for greatness if they only understand how to access those resources.

Crystal’s research in the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics and quantum physics provides the scientific knowledge she uses to help people use their minds proactively and evolve their consciousness to move themselves out of misery and into a fulfilled and happy life.

Crystal’s personal coaching, speaking, CD and video programs, books, and articles have helped people all over the world. She is a member of the International Coaching Federation, a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, the founder of Crystal Vision Life, Ltd, (crystalvisionlife.com) and Skinny Life™, a wellness company (skinnylife.com), and the author of Skinny Life: The Secret to Being Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually Fit. She travels the world with her husband, best-selling author and entrepreneur Mark Victor Hansen, speaking, inspiring and teaching leadership. Crystal and Mark are releasing a new co-written book called ASK! The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny in Spring of 2020. They are both passionate about the health of our planet and the need to create comprehensively sustainable energy and water solutions. Together they are owners of Natural Power Concepts, a Hawaii-based company focused on cleaning up the planet through natural energy devices. They live happily in beautiful Scottsdale, Arizona.

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