10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life

10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life

I’m no stranger to feeling stuck in life.

I’ve trained with some of the best coaches on the planet during my 20-year sports career, and again when I competed in the 2008 Olympics.

But when I wanted to start my own company, to share my knowledge about motivational psychology and training with others, it wasn’t as easy as I’d thought it would be.

Launching a new business is not easy. You have to give up the comforts of a stable paycheck to delve into the unknown, an unpredictable abyss. A lot of things keep us from making the leap—things like fear and insecurity. And one thing above all the rest: motivation.

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When I looked back on my days as an athlete, I understood what was different. I remembered what (or who) made me push myself even when I didn’t want to. The difference was, as an athlete, I had structured days and a coach to report to. Structure keeps us focused and a coach keeps pushing and challenging us.

Thankfully I passed this stage and I founded Onbotraining, an online coaching service that helps people achieve their goals. I decided to collect the lessons I’ve learned along the way and to share them with others, like you, striving to better themselves.

So here are my 10 best tips for achieving anything you want in life.

1. Focus on commitment, not motivation.

Just how committed are you to your goal? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, motivation will follow.

2. Seek knowledge, not results.

If you focus on the excitement of discovery, improving, exploring and experimenting, your motivation will always be fueled. If you focus only on results, your motivation will be like weather—it will die the minute you hit a storm. So the key is to focus on the journey, not the destination. Keep thinking about what you are learning along the way and what you can improve.

3. Make the journey fun.

It’s an awesome game! The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it will start carrying a heavy emotional weight and you will lose perspective and become stuck again.

4. Get rid of stagnating thoughts.

Thoughts influence feelings and feelings determine how you view your work. You have a lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on: the ones that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or the ones that will move you forward (excitement, experimenting, trying new things, stepping out of your comfort zone).

5. Use your imagination.

Next step after getting rid of negative thoughts is to use your imagination. When things go well, you are full of positive energy, and when you are experiencing difficulties, you need to be even more energetic. So rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate my work, guess which feelings those words will evoke? It’s a matter of imagination! You can always find something to learn even from the worst boss in the world at the most boring job. I have a great exercise for you: Just for three days, think and say positive things only. See what happens.

6. Stop being nice to yourself.

Motivation means action and action brings results. Sometimes your actions fail to bring the results you want. So you prefer to be nice to yourself and not put yourself in a difficult situation. You wait for the perfect timing, for an opportunity, while you drive yourself into stagnation and sometimes even into depression. Get out there, challenge yourself, do something that you want to do even if you are afraid.

7. Get rid of distractions.

Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way, especially those easy, usual things you would rather do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on what is the most important. Write a list of time-wasters and hold yourself accountable to not do them.

8. Don’t rely on others.

You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss. They are all busy with their own needs. No one will make you happy or achieve your goals for you. It’s all on you.

9. Plan.

Know your three steps forward. You do not need more. Fill out your weekly calendar, noting when you will do what and how. When-what-how is important to schedule. Review how each day went by what you learned and revise what you could improve.

10. Protect yourself from burnout.

It’s easy to burn out when you are very motivated. Observe yourself to recognize any signs of tiredness and take time to rest. Your body and mind rest when you schedule relaxation and fun time into your weekly calendar. Do diverse tasks, keep switching between something creative and logical, something physical and still, working alone and with a team. Switch locations. Meditate, or just take deep breaths, close your eyes, or focus on one thing for five minutes.

You lack motivation not because you are lazy or don’t have a goal. Even the biggest stars, richest businesspeople or the most accomplished athletes get lost sometimes. What makes them motivated is the curiosity about how much better or faster they can get. So above all, be curious, and this will lead you to your goals and success.

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Inga Stasiulionyte is an Olympian athlete and javelin thrower who competed at the at the Beijing Olympic Games during her 20-year career. Besides developing her career in sports, Inga simultaneously pursued a career in business, working with executives as a life coach. Inga’s dream is to provide access to everyone to the knowledge, tools and training that she received in sports that helped her win. She cooperated with a motivational writer to create Onbotraining.com, a motivational online coaching program that inspires people to reach their goals in life. Inga is a University of Southern California graduate with a bachelor’s degree in entrepreneurship and minor in communication design. She also completed International Business and Global Affairs Master’s studies in the International University of Monaco.


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    • Juwon on June 30, 2019 at 12:28 pm

      I love this

  2. Karl Patacsil on August 1, 2018 at 8:44 am

    I love number 6, on how you point out that you should be constantly changing yourself. Even if it’s hard. Most people talk nice to themselves that’s why they don’t change.

    • SumSum on March 20, 2019 at 7:09 pm

      I couldn’t get the part don’t talk nice to yourself, can you tell me please.

  3. Jesus Erwin Suarez on August 2, 2018 at 12:36 am

    I love the way you explained it, thank you.

  4. Rakshitha William on September 20, 2018 at 3:40 am

    Awesome points

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  7. Chandan kumar on September 26, 2018 at 3:28 pm

    Nice article thank you sir,

  8. issa muhammed olamilekan on September 27, 2018 at 5:11 pm

    i love all of it and i will apply thank you.

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    wonderful thoughts for successful life

  13. mary on March 13, 2019 at 12:32 pm

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  14. Karma Phuntsho on March 16, 2019 at 7:56 pm

    Wow, this article really change my thinking. Put me into something that i can actually try out.

  15. Paing Zin on March 19, 2019 at 7:24 am

    i hope i will be do it.But i afraid to face in my life.I always lose anyone.So i am loser.Just a loser,

  16. ayush shah muzic on March 20, 2019 at 9:02 am

    hey! this is the best article which i have read so far about anything to achieve in life. I hope this article will really help me to achieve anything in life.
    cheers keep up the good work.

  17. Pawan on March 23, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    Agree with you all the points. If I would have to take anything from this article, I would take below 2 key points.

    1.Focus on commitment, not motivation.
    2. Don’t rely on others.

    • Justice Paul on April 23, 2019 at 2:10 pm

      This article is real and very powerful, I learn\\’t a lot. Thank you sir

    • Justice Paul on April 23, 2019 at 2:10 pm

      This article is real and very powerful, I learn’t a lot. Thank you sir

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    • julius on November 21, 2019 at 5:56 am

      very inspirational message.

  21. charles on April 6, 2019 at 2:44 pm

    This article is awesome… Procrastination is the only fertilizer that causes difficulties to grow… I’m out for the best

  22. Elaine on April 7, 2019 at 5:40 am

    i am a student and i want my own business in the future. These steps are perfect. Thank you for showing the internet these amazing thoughts. We all really appreciate it.

    • abbie on May 22, 2019 at 10:04 am

      wixh all da best on your journey

  23. Murthy NT on April 8, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    Thank you very much…

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    I see Hope and a strong faith after reading through all the listed point above.

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  26. yugo on April 16, 2019 at 2:45 pm

    wow is this really how to be successful?

    • Ravi Chauhan on April 20, 2019 at 6:25 am

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      Thank you.

    • Tim on May 10, 2019 at 6:13 am

      Wow faulty info / advice in here, not sure who to blame , even the main one by “Lao” sounds faulty,
      Don’t know what to say here except maybe don’t listen to everything especially what you may think is reliable sources

    • Amanda Brown on June 30, 2019 at 3:32 am

      Trust in God and He will show you the way.

  27. Martha on April 23, 2019 at 7:35 pm

    Wow Thnank you!

  28. Raja Faheem on April 24, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    awesome Explanation & i also appreciate with you Specially thank you for give me good advance knowledge how to Successes in future life

  29. Njiku on April 30, 2019 at 10:04 am

    I like all,but number 6 wow…I’ll stop that habit

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    • HUZAIMA on November 19, 2019 at 10:49 am

      I regret why i had not seen it before due to its importance, but it is never late to change. Thank you. ”The time is today ,not tomorrow”

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  33. abbie on May 22, 2019 at 10:01 am

    awesome points

  34. abbie on May 22, 2019 at 10:06 am

    thanks for the nice tips given on how to be successful

  35. Marvellous on June 6, 2019 at 9:31 am

    Thanks for the tips.
    I learned a lot.

  36. Marvellous on June 6, 2019 at 9:31 am

    Thanks for the tips.
    I learned a lot.

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    I love the 7 number (Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way)
    this line can change your life .

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  39. Novia on June 15, 2019 at 4:16 am

    I am inspired by this article.Thank you very much I loved the way you explained it

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  41. desmond on June 26, 2019 at 1:51 pm

    Thanks a lot, you have make my day blissful……………

  42. sakshi on June 28, 2019 at 11:19 am

    Really works

  43. Mohammed on July 1, 2019 at 12:17 pm

    thank you so much for this great article, as i liked the simplicity of explaining it.

  44. raya34vd on July 5, 2019 at 7:17 am

    hi everyone, i’m looking for some useful advice on how to be more productive

  45. emanuel mollel on July 20, 2019 at 7:51 am

    we must stop procrastinating so that we can approach our dreams

  46. Augustine Mitana on July 23, 2019 at 12:08 pm

    To things ave learned 1.Is to focus on commitment not motivation.
    2.Seek knowledge not result

  47. Nripendra Singh on September 15, 2019 at 12:56 pm

    One of best article i’ve ever read.

  48. Mohamed on September 18, 2019 at 4:40 am

    i see them nice thoughts

  49. Engineers Advice on September 21, 2019 at 10:22 am

    Really it’s a very informative article, My think it always helps us in your daily life.

  50. Junaid Raza on September 22, 2019 at 1:20 am

    Hello Inga,

    The steps you mentioned are really practical that can help us achieve life goals. But still, we see that more than 80 percent of people aren’t successful. And the only reason is they don’t take action.

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  52. Ryan Paq on November 18, 2019 at 11:03 am

    Yes! Stepping outside your comfort zone does help people achieve growth and success! However, I do not recommend stopping the practice of being nice to oneself. Many people like myself live and work in a way that recognizes self-care as a requirement to stay alive and injury free. That is success in my books. Maybe your definition of “being nice to yourself” is different where you live. Maybe you could watch “The Big Short” on Netflix to learn a lesson the need for caring and kindness to oneself and others as it relates to success. In my very real world of construction work if I stop caring for my health and well being I could very easily end up blind, deaf, dismembered, permanently disabled or electrocuted. It is also very hard to be kind to others if I am not kind to myself first. If your definition of success and achievement requires that you need to stop caring, you might want to reassess your definition of success. Just as the mortgage industry was profiting of people’s dreams of owning a home you are profiting of people’s dreams of achievement.

  53. OSYNO D. on November 19, 2019 at 10:45 am

    It’s inspirable in all ramification thanks alot.

  54. HUZAIMA KAWEESA on November 19, 2019 at 10:53 am

    Thank you for this inspiring article. ”I have learnt that we should stop keeping ourselves in comfort zones”.

  55. Lu Ram on November 22, 2019 at 10:03 pm

    Hey Inga! Very good reading very strong steps and hit you with reality, to start is step 1 commitment not motivation! I like that it is true motivation comes and goes a commitment once you stick to it, it is more likely that you will achieve it. 7 get rid of distractions, that is one step that is very important to keep in mind, distractions are everywhere you need to keep focused. And 9 plan, you have to have a plan so you have something to focus on. Inga thank you very much, your professional advice will help a lot of people. You have an Olympiad way of thinking. Thanks again!

  56. JUSTLORD LAWRA NTC on November 24, 2019 at 2:45 am

    wow!! indeed great way to success

  57. Fábio Ourique on November 27, 2019 at 12:46 pm

    Really good article!! I just did a post on my blog called “7 Success Murdering Mistakes that no Billionaire Would Dare Tell You” and I go over 7 crucial factors that you don’t cover in this post. I’ve added the link to the post on the website section of this comment. Cheers

  58. Paliwal on November 28, 2019 at 1:14 pm

    Madrchod maa chudao

  59. Jimmy on December 1, 2019 at 12:27 am

    this article has really challenged me a lot, thumbs up

  60. حمیدرضا انصاری on December 3, 2019 at 5:38 am

    awesome . tnx

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  62. Oluwapelumi on January 29, 2021 at 6:08 pm

    Wow this really helps alot thank you so much

  63. Patrick on February 12, 2021 at 12:29 pm

    i really like it

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