How to Win the War Between Your Ears
It's all right to admit it. You hear voices. We all do. The little voice inside your head is a voice you have created—and it's one that you can change. "You may have been conditioned to be what you are, but that means you can also condition yourself to be who you want to be," says Blair Singer, author of .
If your voice is telling you why you're not good enough or smart enough, then it's time for some daily affirmations. Negative voices put limits on your life and change who you really are.
"The biggest reason to learn little-voice mastery is to get back to being who you really are," Singer says. "Change those little voices, and you are on the road to freedom."
Here are several techniques to reprogram the chatter in your head to uplifting words and energetic thoughts.
Live consciously. Become aware of what you are saying to yourself throughout the day.
Step outside yourself, and objectively review and question the talk in your head. Is it coming from you or from a bad experience that conditioned you into believing that? Don't try to eliminate the voice, but reprogram it. Admit your shortcomings, but realize we all have them.When your voice begins to talk negatively, literally say to yourself, Stop! When you are in a bad mood, play the roles of counselor and counselee. Talk yourself through your mood. Anchor love. Think of a time in your life when you felt especially loved. It can be with your spouse, parents or child. Recall the memory when you need to feel strong. Build your confidence through experience and action. When there is a problem, don't automatically take the blame and attribute it to you personally. It's business, not personal. Accept compliments. Celebrate your wins and see the things you do really well.