8 Annoying Conversation Habits You’re Probably Guilty Of
Do you talk too much in conversations? Or maybe you’re prone to interrupting. Or are you a one-upper? Maybe it’s that you can’t stop looking at your phone every three seconds. We all have one—a bad conversational habit.
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We asked the Young Entrepreneur Council for their opinions on the most off-putting things entrepreneurs and self-starters do in conversations. See if you’re guilty of any of these bad habits, and if you are? Stop, stat.
1. Talking Too Much
People tend to talk themselves out of a deal by saying too much. Only answer the questions that people ask of you. As a rule of thumb, you should say about 20 percent of what you really want to. Offering too much information tends to generate more questions, which in turn leads to fear of the unknown. Keep it concise and direct.
—Andy Karuza, FenSens
2. Inflating Yourself
A little humility goes a long way. I think your work can speak for itself, and oftentimes other people will brag on your behalf when it’s warranted. So don’t go into a conversation and regale us with your inflated ego or otherwise. Get to know the other person by asking questions and finding common ground.
—Darrah Brustein, Network Under 40
3. Saying ‘I Feel Like’
You’re allowed to share your gut feeling, but assuming that you can win an argument because of your gut is an issue—not only because it’s annoying, but it takes away your team’s power to do its job.
—Aaron Schwartz, Modify Watches
4. Poor Delivery
If you are not able to properly communicate a compelling elevator pitch or lack knowledge in your industry, you immediately discredit your position in the market. Poor delivery is off-putting because it shows a lack of effort. You have to be prepared to sell yourself. You never know who you will meet and what power they hold.
—Rakia Reynolds, Skai Blue Media
5. Using Buzzwords
Whether you are talking to potential clients, users or investors, no one wants to feel like they don’t understand what acronyms you’re using or what you’re trying to convey. There is a reason politicians speak as plainly as possible—so they can get everyone on the same page and, thus, on board with their plan.
—Kim Kaupe, ZinePak
Since entrepreneurs often think a mile a minute, they are often cutting into other people’s part of the conversation, thinking they know what they are about to say or already moving on to the next thought. More entrepreneurs need to dial it down, take a breath and actively listen. Speed is good in many situations, but it’s important to take in what others have to say.
—Peter Daisyme, Due
7. Checking Your Phone
All phones should be put away during conversations. No calls. No texts. No browsing. It shows a lack of interest in the conversation you are having with someone. If you are not that interested, change the subject.
—Peter Boyd, PaperStreet Web Design
8. Leading With Assumptive Questions
People often kick off a conversation by asking an assumptive question that will alienate at least part of their audience. For example, if you ask “Have you ever been to X?” and the answer is “No,” you just lost that individual. That’s not the best way to build rapport.
—Eric Mathews, Start Co.
Related: 7 Keys to a Flawless Conversation