5 Gritty Traits You Need to Be More Resilient

UPDATED: May 23, 2024
PUBLISHED: April 19, 2019
5 Gritty Traits You Need to Be More Resilient

What makes one person persevere through tough circumstances while others fall to pieces?

Which individuals will enter and complete their Navy SEAL training and which ones will quit?

In the National Spelling Bee, which students will advance in the competition?

Which teachers in tough areas will still be teaching at the end of the year and improving learning outcomes for their students?

These are some of the questions asked by researchers studying resilience. It is an important topic on several fronts:

First, we live in a world where there is constant downsizing, rightsizing and capsizing. Resilience is and will be the differentiator in handling what comes our way. Second, the only thing that is measured in school as an indicator of future success is IQ, yet we know from observation and experience that success depends on more than your ability to learn quickly and easily. Resilience is the differentiator.

Paul LeBuffe, M.A., of the Devereux Center, lectures on the importance of developing resilience in children. Their success in life depends on it. It’s a great asset to have a certain amount of IQ, social intelligence, good looks and physical health, but the characteristic that keeps rising to the top is resilience, the passion and perseverance for long-term success.

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So the question is not primarily, “How high is your IQ?” According to Angela Duckworth, an academic, psychologist and best-selling author, the question should be, “Who is successful here, and why?”

What we don’t know is how to teach grit and keep folks motivated for the long run. What we do know is that talent is not what makes one gritty.

People with grit display some common traits. Here are five we should be teaching:

1. They keep the end in mind.

Small goals are good, but the big picture keeps you energized and galvanized. Having “the big win” in mind fuels your resilience when the daily grind starts to wear you down. Begin with the end in mind and keep envisioning the big picture. This will increase your ability to persevere.

2. They dump the distractions.

Sometimes our ability to persevere is not directly a resilience issue as much as it is a distraction issue. The extra stuff can do a number on our “grit meter.” Too many outings, hobbies, meetings and projects dull our determination. Eliminating the extraneous conversely strengthens our resilience. It’s good to quit the lesser so we won’t quit the greater.

3. They see themselves as resilient.

This is about our thinking style. All of us have developed thinking habits that impact the way we see ourselves, our world and our future. These thinking styles can be beneficial. The shadow side is that they can lead us astray by misinforming us about what’s going on. It gets amplified during high levels of stress, uncertainty and ambiguity. Some of these beliefs are limiting. Understanding the positive and negative implications of your thinking will help you see yourself differently when you are tempted to quit. Your accuracy and flexibility increases and helps you generate more solutions.

4. They have a growth mindset.

The ability to learn is not fixed. It can change with effort. Young people should be taught about the plasticity of the brain—how it grows when challenged. When they are taught that the brain is a fixed entity (which some assessments imply), they develop a defeatist attitude of, “Why bother?” and “What’s the use?” With a growth mindset, they are more likely to persevere when they encounter a failure. We all need to understand that failure is not a permanent condition.

5. They put things in perspective.

Catastrophizing creates a vicious trap. It increases anxiety, which in turn decreases our ability to work through challenges we face. It dumbs us down. What if we could spend less time worrying by reducing anxiety? Worst-case scenarios and fears are not easy things to ignore, but resilient people write them down; now they can deal with them realistically and prudently.

The world is getting more turbulent, and our grit will be tested. What will you do to adapt, survive and thrive?

Read More: 7 Ways to Persist When Everything in You Wants to Give Up

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Mick Ukleja, Ph.D., is the founder and president of LeadershipTraQ. He empowers leaders to optimize their talent and equips them to excel in their professional and personal life. Mick is an author, speaker and generational strategist. He writes and speaks on engaging millennials at work. He is the co-author of Managing the Millennials: Discover the Core Competencies for Managing Today’s Workforce, 2nd Edition, which is used in corporate training and business schools. He co-founded the Ukleja Center for Ethical Leadership at California State University, Long Beach, which promotes ethics across the curriculum. Mick is an adjunct professor in the MBA program at Concordia University. His book Who Are You? What Do You Want? has been praised by legendary coach John Wooden: “I have always taught that success can be achieved by each one of us. These principles provide an excellent life-planning guide for bringing out your best.” Mick has been featured on Fox News, CNN, Fox Business Network, NBC and in numerous publications. Keep up with Mick at Leadershiptraq.com.