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Everybody’s a critic, have you noticed? Especially when you’re chasing a dream they’ve deemed an “unrealistic fantasy.” Dealing with that negative input is hard—on you and your goals—but you can choose once and for all to keep moving, regardless of others’ opinions. This is your time, your life, your moment of truth.

Don’t let criticism or rejection control you or stop you from getting what you want. It's not what other people say that decides our success; it’s how we respond to their comments, what we think they mean, and whether the challenges trigger the "giving up" reflex in us or motivate us to hang tough and keep fighting.

The foundation for creating results in our lives is to realize that, ultimately, we alone are responsible. Period. If your dream aligns with your purpose and ignites your passion, no one else’s opinion really matters.

Realted:<a href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/john-c-maxwell-how-to-carve-out-your-lifes-passion" target="_self" rel="noopener">&nbsp;</a><a href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/john-c-maxwell-how-to-carve-out-your-lifes-passion" target="_self" rel="noopener">John C. Maxwell: How to Carve Out Your Life's Passion</a>

The following people ignored their critics and achieved their dreams because of it. Follow their lead and pay no attention to these seven pessimistic lines:

<h2>1. “The timing is all wrong.”</h2>

In 1987, prior to accepting Paramount's offer to host a late night talk show, Arsenio Hall was told by everyone, "It's too hard to crack into the late night ratings. Besides, television isn't ready for a black talk show host. You can forget it."

<h2>2. “Why don't you get a real job?” </h2>

Not understanding his desire to become Mr. Universe, Arnold Schwarzenegger's family pleaded with him, saying, "How long will you go on training all day in a gymnasium and living in a dream world?"

<h2>3. “It'll never work; you'll lose everything.”</h2>

Weeks before she opened her first store, cosmetic tycoon Mary Kay Ash's attorney said, "Liquidate the business right now and recoup whatever cash you can. If you don't, you'll end up penniless."

<h2>4. “Don't rock the boat.”</h2>

In response to Muriel Siebertís’ application to be the first woman to buy a seat on the New York Stock Exchange, officials responded, "The language on the floor is too rough and there's no ladies' room."&nbsp; She bought a seat anyway and remained the only woman there for nine years.

<h2>5. “It's never been done before.” </h2>

Upon applying for a job after graduation from Columbia University, announcers for NBC Radio responded to Sally Jessy Raphael, "You have the perfect voice for broadcasting, but you should get a job as a secretary. We're not using women."

<h2>6. “You don't have enough talent.”</h2>

Responding to his desire to become a recording artist, Ray Charles' teachers said, "You can't play the piano, and God knows you can't sing. You'd better learn how to weave chairs so you can support yourself."

<h2>7. “Don't even try; you'll just be disappointed.”</h2>

When auditioning for a part in a high school musical, a teacher rejected Diana Ross, saying, "You have a nice voice, but it's nothing special."&nbsp;

Your time is now.

Related:&nbsp;<a href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/how-far-can-your-dreams-take-you" target="_self" rel="noopener">How Far Can Your Dreams Take You?</a>

Everybody’s a critic, have you noticed? Especially when you’re chasing a dream they’ve deemed an “unrealistic fantasy.” Dealing with that negative input

Everybody’s a critic, have you noticed? Especially when you’re chasing a dream they’ve deemed an “unrealistic fantasy.” Dealing with that negative input | SUCCESS

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Cynthia Kersey is the bestselling author of Unstoppable: 45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph from People Just Like You, as well as a performance and productivity coach.

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They say that “everyone’s a critic,” and that never seems more true than when you’re pursuing a dream and trying to enlist support. There will always be well-meaning people who want to “protect” you from your “unrealistic fantasies.”

Cynthia Kersey, best-selling author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1570713383/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1570713383&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=sm0fe-20&amp;linkId=4HGN2DLAMGE3CG2K">Unstoppable: 45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph from People Just Like You</a>, says dealing with critics and rejection is no doubt difficult. These critics are often people you love the most—parents, friends and significant others. They may have the advantage of <a title="The Power of Perspective | SUCCESS.com" href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/the-power-of-perspective" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">seeing your situation from a wide vantage point</a>—the outside in. But don’t forget you are the only one who has a unique spot to observe your dream’s scenic landscape. You can use your fire and passion to see what others can’t.

The only opinion about your dream that really counts is yours. The negative comments of others merely reflect their limitations—not yours.

Fashion photographer Richard Avedon tried to convince Cher that she didn’t have the right look to be a model. He told her flat out, “You will never make the cover of Vogue because you don’t have blond hair or blue eyes.” When she did, Vogue sold more copies than it had ever sold before.

When Gustave Leven was making plans to launch Perrier in the United States, several consulting firms advised him, “You’re foolish to try to sell sparkling water in the land of Coca-Cola drinkers.”

A New York publisher told James Michener after reading his first unpublished manuscript, “You’re a good editor with a promising future in the business. Why would you want to throw it all away to try to be a writer? I read your book. Frankly, it’s not really that good.” Michener's manuscript, titled <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0812986350/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0812986350&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=sm0fe-20&amp;linkId=MBWDIWGEQMKWI7MR">Tales of the South Pacific</a> , was eventually sold, later won a Pulitzer Prize and was adapted for stage and screen as South Pacific.

Remember, there is nothing unrealistic about a dream that <a title="Answer 6 Questions to Reveal Your Life Purpose | SUCCESS.com" href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/answer-6-questions-to-reveal-your-life-purpose" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">aligns with your purpose</a>, ignites your passion, and inspires you to plan and persevere until you attain it. On the contrary, it’s unrealistic to expect a person with such drive and commitment not to succeed.
Related: <a href="https://successcom.wpenginepowered.com/article/john-c-maxwell-5-reasons-why-dreams-dont-take-flight">John C. Maxwell: 5 Reasons Why Dreams Don’t Take Flight </a>

Sometimes your opinion is the only one that matters.

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