What to do “When Your Dream Doesn’t Work Out”

How do I begin to transition from Career A to Plan B?
Switching from one career to another can be scary, but it also can be a thrilling experience. Look at it as an opportunity
to really go after what you want to accomplish in life and make a difference in the world. The key is to take small, conscious
steps and prepare yourself for a successful transition. It can be that you go back to school or re-train in a new field to
gain specific knowledge and skill sets. It can mean networking in an entirely new way and putting yourself out there in the
world so people can see and hear you. Transitions can take time, patience, and a willingness to endure a whole new set of
challenges. If you are hoping to start your own business, for example, you may need to work up the capital necessary and take
a “day job” in the meanwhile to make ends meet and avoid serious debt.

A common mistake people make when they embark on such a transition is jumping too quickly into something else without really
thinking it all through or even stopping to ask, What do I want? What are my dreams? Your answer should reflect your passions
and your talents, and not sound like a random stab in the dark. Once you decide what you want, then set some goals that will
move you toward fulfilling that. Take your time and be patient with yourself in the process. No one becomes an expert in a
new career overnight, even if you are coming from another career where you were established and experienced. Remember, as
soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen.
You’ll start attracting the people you need into your life to make your dream come true.

How do I figure out what Plan B should be?
Simply start by creating a list. Pull out a notebook or open a new document on the computer that you file away under “Career”
and begin to list out ideas. You can create different columns for different categories of lists. For example, one column can
list specific jobs you already have in mind; another can list inherent strengths or talents; and another can list hobbies.
See what emerges. Is there a pattern among the lists? Is there a job that’s reflected across all three lists? I also
encourage people to open the conversation up with friends and family members. People who know you well can often offer ideas
and insights that you may overlook in your own personal thinking.

Focus on what I call your core genius. Think about the things you love to do and that you do well. Yes, these may include
hobbies or volunteer jobs that could be transformed into careers. For me, my core genius lies in the area of teaching and
motivating. I love to do it, I do it well, and people report that they get great value from it. Another core genius is compiling
and writing books. Along with my co-author Mark Victor Hansen and others, I have written, co-authored, compiled and edited
more than 200 books.

Don’t overlook the power of frustration—as in, What do you see as missing from the market that you can fill?
One tip I like to give people when they are figuring out what to do next is to think about how they can be of service to others.
When your dreams include service to others — accomplishing something that contributes to others — it also accelerates
the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.

I’m having a hard time staying positive. Any advice?
Researchers have found that the average person thinks as many as 50,000 thoughts a day. Sadly, many of those thoughts are
negative — I’m not management material…. I’ll never get a new job…. It doesn’t matter
what I do, nothing ever works out for me. This is what psychologists call victim language. Victim language actually keeps
you in a victim state of mind. It is a form of self-hypnosis that lulls you into a belief that you are unlovable and incompetent.

In order to live your dreams, you need to give up this victim language and start talking to yourself like a winner —
I can do it…. I know there is a solution…. I am smart enough and strong enough to figure this out…. I will
find satisfaction and success in my life.

One of the most powerful tools for building worthiness and self-confidence is the repetition of positive statements until
they become a natural part of the way you think. These “affirmations” act to crowd out and replace the negative
orders you have been sending your subconscious mind. Create a list of 10 to 20 statements that affirm your belief in your
worthiness and your ability to create the life of your dreams. Here are some examples of affirmations that have worked for
others in the past:
I am worthy of love, joy and success.
I am smart.
I am loveable and capable.
I can create anything I want.
I am able to solve any problem that comes my way.
I can handle anything that life hands me.
I have all the energy I need to do everything I want to do.
I am attracting all the right people into my life.

I keep thinking about everything that went wrong. How can I focus on the future?
Ruminating about the past can lead to tremendous dissatisfaction that impedes forward movement. Many people under-appreciate
the little things they accomplish every day. And yet they can recall in detail all the times they have failed or made mistakes.
That’s because the brain remembers events more easily when they are accompanied by strong emotions.

Take time to write your achievements down. Start when you were very young and think of all your achievements since then.
Don’t just pick the big things, write down all the things you take for granted. You can also create a log of success
every day and review it when you are faced with a new challenge.

Also try to avoid seeing your last career as something that “went wrong.” Maybe it didn’t go wrong at
all! Maybe in the grand scheme of things you are being called to do something bigger with your life and have a greater impact
in the world. Your last career was a steppingstone in this new direction, and everything you’ve learned up to this point
has groomed you to make this transition and welcome future successes.

People like to be around those who have a healthy self-esteem and are achieving their goals. Commit to acknowledging your
achievements and your brain will begin to tell you the truth; that you can do anything!


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