There’s an Elephant in the Room and It Might Be Your Clueless Leadership Style

Vulnerability and failure—two words that might as well be R-rated in the higher echelons of corporate. But should they actually be Restricted?

Look at some of the most successful leaders and high-flying entrepreneurs in play today; at some stage in their upward momentum, they have “failed.” But then they showed strength and resilience, and came back from the edge. They had the vulnerability to say “I need help, I need to reach out, and I need to re-launch my trajectory.”

Vulnerability can be a great strength in business because it teaches us to engage and to listen. It encourages us to admit when we need assistance. It gives us new skills. And it also brings about great collaboration.

So how do we embrace vulnerability in the office—and put a fear of failure to use? Here are four steps:

1. It’s OK to admit the elephant in the room.

Vulnerability is as much a part of you as your preference for dogs or cats, chocolate or vanilla (or strawberry!), sweet or salty. It’s part of your authentic self.

Your team members can see this—when you’re being authentic and when you’re not. When you refuse to admit vulnerability, you’re letting a great big elephant into the room.

You’re refusing to admit its presence, but that elephant of inauthenticity shows up in constant denial and stress and everyone else can see it.

The best way others perceive you is through your authentic self, so stop trying to be Superman and just admit when you could be wrong. Remember, even Superman had his Kryptonite.

2. Think of vulnerability as bravery.

Bill Gates said, “Failure is a great teacher.” Part of being vulnerable in business is seeing a willingness to fail as brave and a way to increase your resilience.

Linda Sapadin, psychologist and author of Master Your Fears, uses the example of the Cowardly Lion from The Wizard of Oz—he takes action despite a lack of courage. “People think having courage means you have no fear,” when in fact “courage is taking action despite the fear,” Sapadin says.

She adds, “You really need to be able to get beyond the fear to make your business happen. In other words, fear of failure doesn’t mean full stop—it means do it anyway. Be brave.

3. Realize that fear of failure is contagious.

When you hold back from making decisions out of a fear of failure, you create that same fear in your team. This means lackluster projects, an endemic inability to change the business status quo and a potential lack of future management candidates.

A large part of embracing vulnerability and being brave enough to risk failing is being able to make the tough calls—and showing staff and co-workers that taking risks is OK.

4. Be open to “failure.”

Inventor Sir James Dyson, beloved of the designer vacuum cleaner brigade, went through 5,127 prototypes and 5,126 “failures” to get his first model right. That’s a lot of vulnerability on show—and a lot of what could be termed complete and utter failure.

But there’s a difference between passive and active vulnerability—and this is key to what it means to allow yourself to “fail” without actually failing. If you are passive, it means you’re not open—or prepared—for the possibility of failure. If you are active in your vulnerability, you are taking the opportunity for informed and proactive risk-taking—you know there’s a pretty big risk of failure, but there’s an equally big chance for payoff.

So open yourself up to embrace change and the potential failure that comes with bold decisions. Show that you are willing to learn from others, and admit that you don’t know everything. That is true vulnerability, and it comes from a position of strength, as a person and as a leader.

Like Colin Powell said, “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work and learning from failure.”

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Sydney-based Janine Garner is an internationally-acclaimed entrepreneur and Fortune 500 mentor, keynote speaker and author. She is a partner at Thought Leaders Global, which helps clever people to become commercially smart, and the founder and CEO of the LBDGroup, a networking community that connects like-minded women together to help them achieve extraordinary growth. Janine is passionate about bringing brilliant people together to achieve remarkable results through collaboration, connection and influential leadership.

She is the winner of an International Stevie Award, a Top 10 finalist in the DARE Magazine Daredevil Awards and was listed in 2013 as one of Australia’s “Most Inspiring Women” by Madison Magazine. Janine is also the founder of Australia’s first gift giving circle, the First Seeds Fund, committed to supporting women and children at the grassroots of Australia with a focus on education and employment.

She is the author of From Me To We: Why Commercial Collaboration Will Future Proof Business, Leaders and Personal Success (Wiley 2015) and It’s Who You Know: How a Network of 12 Key People Can Fast-Track Your Success (Wiley 2017). 

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