Lewis Howes on the Masks We Wear

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What does it mean to be masculine? It’s a question Lewis Howes, lifestyle entrepreneur and New York Times best-selling author, began to think about when his outside success didn’t match what he felt on the inside. “I thought this was the way of life. I’m never gonna be satisfied, so I had to keep striving for more,” Howes says. SUCCESS Editor-in-Chief Josh Ellis and Howes sit down to discuss his new book, The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives. Plus, listen in to hear Howes’ own journey of rediscovering himself and building stronger relationships in his life.

This interview appears on the SUCCESS Talks Collection, available in the November 2017 edition of SUCCESS magazine.

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  • A violent fist fight led Howes to a revelation: “That’s the moment when I said, enough is enough, I need to learn more about who I am, why I’m this way and how I can move forward.”
  • Men wear “masks of masculinity” to protect themselves when they’re triggered or challenged; women strive for a mask of perfection at work, home, relationships, friendships and their physical appearances.
  • Types of masks include the stoic mask, the aggression mask, the material mask, the sexual mask, the athlete, the joker, the know-it-all.

Favorite quote from this episode:

“Reconnect to the fact that we’re all human beings, we’re not perfect and that it’s okay to not wear a mask like we are perfect in every situation in our life.”

—Lewis Howes

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Josh Ellis is the former editor in chief for SUCCESS magazine. Before joining SUCCESS in 2012, he was an accomplished digital and print sportswriter, working for the Dallas Cowboys Star magazine, the team’s gameday program, and DallasCowboys.com. Originally from Longview, Texas, he began writing for his hometown newspaper at 16.

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