Ep. 27: 15 Ways to Ask for What You Want

 SUCCESS Talks podcast on Stitcher

Do you have a hard time asking people for things? Whether it’s in life or business, negotiating your way through the world and asking for things is crucial. In this episode, Shelby and Josh share proven strategies to ask for what you want and a formula for asking for things in a SMART way: specific, meaningful, action-oriented, real and time-bound.

Plus we hear from SUCCESS Leadership Editor John Addison, author of Real Leadership: 9 Simple Practices for Leading and Living With Purpose, on how great leaders encourage their team to stand up for themselves. “People get up everyday and they personally doubt themselves and their skills,” Addison says. “As human beings we are balls of insecurity. Great leaders make people feel better. Lift people up and think about your words. Are they building words or destroying words? Great leaders are champions of encouragement.”



  • Be a better negotiator with these 15 tips to ask for what you want

  • How to use empathy, humor, tone of voice and timing to help your negotiation

  • Why you want people to say no before they say yes

  • ‘Let’s split the difference’: Beware this sneaky tactic of master negotiators

  • Why you should never start a question with why

  • What word you should start a question with instead

  • How to ask for something via email with this acronym


Favorite quote from this episode:

“Great leaders make people feel better. Great leaders are champions of encouragement.” — John Addison


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Journalist, podcaster and southpaw Shelby Skrhak is the director of digital content and social media for SUCCESS.com. She's co-host of the SUCCESS Insider and SUCCESS Talks podcasts. Before joining SUCCESS magazine, Shelby launched the weekly suburban newspaper Plano Insider, and covered topics ranging from cops and courts to transportation and fashion. Her handwriting should be a font.

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