Today we want to introduce you to what we consider the real fun in life: finding purpose and beauty, which includes loving what you do, day in and day out. We think there is nothing more beautiful than being an entrepreneur. And both of us are entrepreneurs. (Mike has helped found 11 companies—three successes, three failures, and five still cooking—together still employing more than 250 people. Mehmet’s ZoCo Production company employs more than 100 people for his show). And we both love what we do. So we think having a passion for your job, being an entrepreneur, is really being beautiful. Looking, feeling and being beautiful are all tied together. Looking good helps you feel good about yourself, which serves as the foundation for developing that sense of authenticity and deeper purpose that so many of us crave. Plus, being authentic and happier makes you physically more attractive. We all have beautiful elements in us; we’re going to talk about ways that we can expose and maximize them. The beauty industry is one of the biggest money-takers around. We have cosmetics companies and cosmetic surgeons. We’re obsessed with fashion and our weight. We exercise our bodies, we scrub our faces, we wax off gnarly hair, we buy expensive underwear to push our breasts up and suck our stomachs in. And maybe we’re all emphasizing the wrong things. Beauty is much more than outer appearances alone. Beauty is also about how you feel and how you define your life. These three interlocking elements—look, feel, be—work together to form what we believe is the ultimate goal in all of our lives: to feel good about yourself because you know your purpose, have strong self-esteem and a healthy, energetic existence that allows you to appreciate the subtle beauty of day-to-day life. And because you know your purpose in life, you can show others how to find theirs. Feeling beautiful and finding happiness with ourselves and through our interactions with other people has tremendous health implications. Good relationships (and having a real buddy) can help stave off depression and add years to your life, especially if you’re trying to weather the storms of stress. Having internal struggles about your value and purpose in life can increase your chance of developing both physical and mental ailments—and influence your overall feeling of happiness (not to mention longevity). That really lies at the center of making beauty a full-circle concept. The more beautiful you look and feel, the happier you are. And the happier you are, the more beautiful you look and feel and the more you can share with others your purpose in life. And that’s a beautiful thing. So here are some tips to help you find your inner beauty. Align your missions. So often, we get caught up in the minutiae of our jobs—tedious annoyances and struggles that may be temporary roadblocks but feel more like concrete mountains. While there’s plenty of research that shows that people who work with the muscles above their neck create all kinds of stresses for themselves, it’s the people who focus on the why of their jobs (as opposed to the what and the how) who can manage the day-to-day problems more easily. That is, if you can define the purpose of your career or feel passionate about the mission of your company, you can much more easily handle the occasional server maintenance that disrupts your inbox. Pick your passion first, paycheck second. When it comes to careers, a lot of people have it backward. They pick a career because they think they may make a lot of money in it. Maybe they will, and maybe they won’t. But if you pick something you don’t like and end up not making money, then your brain can feel more fizzed than shaken-up soda. So what we tell young people all the time is to find a career they’re passionate about. Do that and you’ll naturally excel because you’ll love what you’re doing. And, in many cases, the money will follow. Never hang it up. Adding five years to your retirement date decreases your mortality by 10 percent, and another 10 percent for every five-year increment. This is especially true about heart-related deaths (perhaps because when you retire you lose a reason for the heart to keep beating). Even if you quit your lifelong day job, pick up another responsibility so you have to get up in the morning and fulfill a purpose. But plan for retirement anyway. Even though we advocate that you never really retire from working (in the sense that you instead would watch bad TV all day long), you still need to plan for the time when you step away from your main source of income. Start your 401(k) plan with as much money as you can afford and can contribute without pain. Nothing gives you freedom to follow your passions and relieve stress than having a retirement fund. Say thanks. As adults, we surely don’t need reminders for the typical thank-you moments. But many of us may need reminders to do so beyond the typical door openings and gift giving; after all, part of our purpose here is to get a little deeper, right? Once a week (or more often as you enjoy it more), think of someone who has had an effect on your life—big or small—and write that person a note of gratitude (not via e-mail either; be personal). Gratitude is one of the gifts you can give others that also has some selfish benefits: Some research shows that 15 minutes of daily gratitude can dramatically decrease stress hormones in your body. Another cool practice used by some friends: Keep a gratitude bell in the house, and when one member of the family does something nice for another, ring the bell. It’s a great way to teach kids that helping others really matters. So today, understand that having a purpose in life really makes your life beautiful. And we salute all the entrepreneurs who are starting to do the impossible. Remember, the stress at the start and when the stuff hits the fan is much easier to handle when you know your purpose—so today we salute you.
Michael F. Roizen, M.D., is a professor of internal medicine and anesthesiology, and chief wellness officer and chair of the Wellness Institute at the Cleveland Clinic. Mehmet C. Oz, M.D., is a professor and vice chairman of surgery, as well as director of the Cardiovascular Institute and Integrated Medical Center at New York’s Presbyterian-Columbia University.
Roizen and Oz are the authors of the New York Times best-selling YOU series, including their recent releases, YOU Having a Baby, YOU Being Beautiful: The Owner’s Manual to Outer and Inner Beauty, and YOU On a Diet: the Owner’s Manual for Waist Management, now updated and revised with 100 more recipes (Free Press). Their goal: By the year’s end, you’ll have extended your body’s warranty with surefire anti-aging strategies that will, in their words, “give you more energy than a Labrador puppy.”