3 Things You Need to Know About Being Loyal

May 17, 2017

In Coach Wooden’s Pyramid of Success, Loyalty is defined as a trait one owes “to yourself and to all those depending upon you. Keep your self-respect.”

“I do not see how anyone can attain true peace of mind without having something to which they must show loyalty; someone to whom they must express loyalty at all times,” Coach Wooden said.

At the center of the foundation of the Pyramid, loyalty is positioned between friendship and cooperation. This is no accident; loyalty is the glue that holds the other two together. As Coach remarked, “Once we have taken the steps toward friendship, we must remain loyal to our friends lest the friendship fall apart.”

Related: John Wooden’s 7-Point Creed: ‘Make Friendship a Fine Art’

In my 30 years of teaching Coach Wooden’s Pyramid to businesses, individuals and teams, the same question always arises when we begin to discuss the loyalty block: “How can I get my employees or team members to be more loyal to the company or to me?” The logic of this question is misplaced, however, because it does not take into account a fundamental truth: Loyalty can only be given, not demanded, from others. Loyalty and respect have something in common—they are both something you can only get if you give.

The definition of loyalty has three components:

1. “Loyalty to yourself.”

This simply means that you have a set of core values that guide your behavior no matter what the circumstances are.

A core value that Coach Wooden possessed was that he was a man of his word. In 1948, Coach Wooden demonstrated this in the most tangible way when he was offered a job by both Minnesota and UCLA. Preferring to stay in the Midwest, his first choice was Minnesota; however, Minnesota wasn’t quite ready to make a firm offer and UCLA needed an answer, so the Golden Gophers promised to call by 6:00 Sunday night with their deal. When the deadline passed and he had not heard from Minnesota, Coach Wooden accepted the Bruins’ offer instead. When Minnesota finally got through later that night—a blizzard had knocked out their phone lines—Coach kindly but firmly let them know that he’d already committed to UCLA and that he would not break his word.

2. “Loyalty to all those depending upon you.”

Coach Wooden viewed loyalty as “the force that forges individuals into a team.” The loyalty Coach demonstrated to his players was palpable. He genuinely loved them all and cared about them as people; they knew it and they knew that their coach would always stand up for them.

In another example from 1948, after winning the conference championship at Indiana State, Coach Wooden and his team were invited to participate in the NAIA National Championship tournament in Kansas City. Coach refused the invitation, however, because he would not be allowed to bring Clarence Walker, an African-American player who would have been prohibited from participating solely because of his race. The following season, Indiana State won their conference again and was once more invited to the tournament. This time, the NAIA relented, and Clarence was allowed to participate. A significant change for the better had been accomplished because Coach had refused to compromise the loyalty due to a hard-working and well-deserving member of his team.

3. “Keep your self-respect.”

This is a direct result of maintaining loyalty to one’s personal values and to those with whom one interacts. “The goal is to satisfy not everyone else’s expectations, but your own,” Coach liked to say. “Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Character is what you really are; reputation is merely what you are perceived to be.”

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