Top of Mind: How to Distance Yourself From Unhealthy Relationships
I receive people as they are, which means at times accepting that I cannot force others toward positive change. As someone with the professional goal of healing the world, person by person, I recognize my energetic limitations and prioritize those closest to me: God, family, community and humanity, in that order.
—Brian Richards, founder, SaunaSpace
I simply don’t invite people in my life who are not additive. There are energy vampires lurking in unexpected places and I can smell them a mile away. Unsubscribe. I have no qualms about creating real distance between myself and others who thrive off of drama and chaos. I’m not quite in the zone of namaste, but I try hard to keep it real.
—Jolie Hunt, CEO, Hunt & Gather
With age comes experience and the understanding that life is too short to waste time on relationships that are unhealthy. I look for honesty and transparency in relationships. There is always a give-and-take component in any relationship, but I steer clear of relationships in which the other person is always taking. We all deserve to be happy and healthy, and to surround ourselves with people who think and act the same way.
If you’re in relationships that are unhealthy or stressful, ask yourself why you brought them into your life in the first place. It's essential we take 150 percent accountability for all things in our lives. And ultimately, if there are unhealthy relationships in your life, it's simply a mirror reflecting back your unhealthy relationship with yourself. If you want to distance yourself from unhealthy or stressful relationships, then heal the relationship with yourself.
—Alexander Mendeluk, founder, The Disruptive
I surround myself with really amazing people and I'm extremely lucky that I haven't had to deal with many issues related to unhealthy or stressful relationships. I truly believe that you get what you give. If you're a happy and positive person, more likely than not you'll attract the same type of people to you.
—Christine Deehring, co-founder, CEO, Bump Boxes
I have learned to end toxic relationships as soon as it becomes clear the other person is not someone worth associating with. I will help anyone from a distance, but having them directly in my personal or professional circle is not something I am willing to do. I place my focus on the positive relationships that are uplifting to the team and society. At AgileCraft, we focus on a single plan and when we identify relationships that impede the plan, we separate from them and move forward without them. People only create stress if you let them.
—Steve Elliott, CEO of AgileCraft
This article originally appeared in the August 2017 issue of SUCCESS magazine.